Negative comparisons are discouraging, not motivating
No two children are exactly alike, even in the same family. That’s why phrases that negatively compare one child to another, such as "Why can't you be more like your brother?" aren’t fair or helpful…and can even be harmful. Compare your child only to herself. Accept her for who she is. Celebrate her strengths and help her become the best she can be. It may be the most valuable gift you can give her.